5 Tools of Effective Families: Introduction
February 2, 2008 by Scott Hammond
Filed under Family, Relationships
What is it that we as parents want to leave with her kids afterward gone?
What will be our legacy and heritage?
Like Curly in the movie “City Slickers” asks: “What is that 1 Thing? “-That thing that defines and motivates your life…?
What will they say about you after you are gone?…and we all will be someday!
Why do we do what we do when it comes to our parenting?
Why is Intentional Parenting so important, vital, and a key priority?
In the “5 Tools for Effective Families“we will explore how to nurture our kids by setting a foundation of best practices.
We will learn to incrementally introduce in practice, the habits and tools to parent intentionally.
Our goal should be to nurture our children and help them flourish to be the best they can be.
We will explore listening, good communication, genuine encouragement, choosing to give grace, and laying a foundation of faith in God that governs all of who we are and where we are going as a family.
It all begins with relationship building on a quality life foundation that results in emotional health and well-being of our families.
The end goal that we may be able to leave a legacy and heritage for our children and their children as well.
Intentional parenting that equips, sets the foundation, and truly leaves a legacy is the definition of true riches.
We’ll explore these as we uncover the 5 Tools for Effective Families…
Do you set goals?
June 7, 2007 by Scott Hammond
Filed under Goal-setting
Do you set goals?
Why or why not.
What I’m going to write about today is what a written goal is, how to set goals, tools to use goals, monitoring and reviewing goals, and how to get started.
Why set goals?… Some of the once said “You are totally responsible for the choices you make.” 95% of us do not use goal setting tools. The Yale study determined that the 3% that did set goals at 95% of the wealth at the end of a 30 year period.
My introduction to goal setting came through, my dad Bob.
He was a sales executive who bought a Tommy Hopkins tape series in which he shared goal setting.
I began setting goals in college, and the results and outcomes have been fabulous.
So, the excuses for failure we use and not setting goals are; we’re too busy, what if we fail?, it’s too hard, it’s too much work, or… what if I succeed?
Sometimes the fear of success is an impediment to progress….some people are so fearful of failure that they can never make themselves actively set and achieve goals. What holds them back is the possibility that they may not do exactly as planned. The sad part of this thinking is that even the smallest progress would be movement forward. With the status quo in the fear setting goals, there’s never forward movement. That possibility is forfeit in the absence of goals…
How to set goals…
Good goals must be written down, specific, challenging yet achievable, time specific, and measurable.
They need to be reviewed regularly and revised as needed. One can monitor and review goals on a weekly, monthly, quarterly, and annual basis.
I review, renew, and rewrite new goals annually.
I take a day to dream and write down on paper. That which I’m striving for.
In conclusion, you got to want it, picture it, plan it, and go do it.
Remove your limitations, fears, and mental constipation that keeps you from your success.
Try it for one year.
Now that you know what good goal setting practices look like, you are ready to set some compelling goals for yourself. You now know what goals are, the tools to set them, and what makes a real goal. Don’t forget to monitor review and renew on a regular basis.