Dads are an Endangered Spicies…Community Comment on KINS

This is a local radio comment done by community members on KINS AM Talk Radio for the North Coast of California…the topic is Dads are In Trouble.kins-cc-1

Prayer from the Greatest Salesman in the World

Prayer From The Greatest Salesman In The World … by Og Mandino

Oh creator of all things, help me. For this day I go out into the world naked and alone, and without your hand to guide me I will wander far from the path which leads to success and happiness.

I ask not for gold or garments or even opportunities equal to my abilities; instead, guide me so that I may acquire ability equal to my opportunities.

You have taught the lion and the eagle how to hunt and prosper with teeth and claw. Teach me how to hunt with words and prosper with love so that I may be a lion among men and an eagle in the market place.

Help me to remain humble through obstacles and failures; yet hide not from mine eyes the prize that will come with victory.

Assign me tasks to which others have failed, yet guide me to pluck the seeds of success from their failures. Confront me with fears that will temper my spirit; yet endow me with courage to laugh at my misgivings.

Spare me sufficient days to reach my goals; yet help me to live this day as though it be my last.

Guide me in my words that they may bear fruit; yet silence me from gossip that none be maligned.

Discipline me in the habit of trying and trying and trying again; yet show me the way to make use of the law of averages. Favor me with alertness to recognize opportunity; yet endow me with patience which will concentrate my strength.

Bathe me in good habits that the bad ones may drown; yet grant me compassion for the weaknesses in others. Suffer me to know that all things shall pass; yet help me to count my blessings of today.

Expose me to hate so it not be a stranger; yet fill my cup with love to turn strangers into friends.

But all these things only if thy will. I am a small and a lonely grape clutching the vine yet thou hast made me different from all the others. Verily, there must be a special place for me. Guide me. Show me the way.

Let me become all you planned for me when my seed was planted and selected by you to sprout in the vineyard of the world.

Help this humble salesman.

Guide me, God.

Fathers Day Writing Contest Winner Announced!

Re: Exciting news

Well, I would have to say: My dad’s the best!
Why: He took in kids who needed a home, when he didn’t have to!

He gives unconditional love and does things for others with out asking for anything back!
When you need him he’s there, never giving it a second thought!

He’s one you can always count on and loves everyone!
I don’t know what I’d do with out my dad, he’s my #1 hero and I’m glad that God brought me into his life to be my dad!

I couldn’t ask for anyone better!

God took me out of a bad situation and brought me into a home where he knew I would be taken care of for the rest of my life!
I love my dad very much and I would do anything for him; just like I know he’d do anything for me!!

So there’s my Father’s day tribute for me!
Rebecca
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CONGRATULATIONS REBECCA FROM CA YOU ARE THE WINNER OF THE 1ST ANNUAL FATHERS DAY WRITING CONTEST ON WWW.BECOMEABETTERFATHER.COM…!!

Scott Hammond Introduction

Nice basic introduction of Scott and his background, vision, and content behind www.BecomeabetterFather.com

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Secret#3. Time = Love.

Some fathers spend more time with their kids in one day, and some debts due in one week, or even one month!!

Why?…The difference?

Intentionality.

Time spent with your child shows your love by action.
We need both quality and quantity time with our kids.
We need to include them in our world, and include ourselves in their world.

Here’s some examples of what I do with my kids.

These are areas where we’ve found common ground to play together…

1. hot tubbing
2. trampoline
3. on the swing
4. basketball
5. playing Legos
6. playing boardgames
7. doing crafts…

You get the picture… find common ground and leverage the time with your kids.
You must be intentional and methodical and sequential if you are to be successful in this endeavor of spending quality time with your kids…

This means…

1. date your kids…Go to Starbucks, bagels, McDonald’s, ice cream or whatever
2. put them in your day timer or in Outlook
3. schedule them, as you would your most precious appointment… because that’s what these are.

have daily and weekly schedule routines together, including…

• Meal times… the best place to teach your kids your values, heritage, and spiritual foundation.
• Bedtimes… a key point in showing love, closing the day correctly, and praying together
• Weekly rituals… Friday night pizza, movie night, the family night etc….
• Running errands… always bring a kid with you on car rides… again leverage the time.
• Chores and projects… build relationships and teach a good work ethic… All in one package!

Let’s address the “I don’t have time” excuse.
Everyone has time, no exceptions.
We give time to what we value the most.
Create time today that you would normally spent on TV, the Internet, sports, hobbies, boating, hunting golfing, or just being lazy….. begin to incrementally give it to your children!

Just hang out with your family and kids because you want to and get to.

Not because you HAVE TO…
Make a solid choice of attitude and motivation.
We GET to hang out with our kids.. we are blessed and privileged!
How could you be more intentional and incremental in dating your kids?

Dream it, plan it, write it, and do it!

Follow through…

If not you, who?
If not now, when?

The 7 Wonders of Being a Father

It’s a wonderful thing, being a father. Below are just seven aspects….

1. Conception… we give God the credit for making life. Each individual has a special set of gifts, talents, strengths and weaknesses, all destined for God’s special purposes…
2. Birth... arguably the biggest event in any parent’s life. All your hopes for your child, the bonding, the linking, as you lay down your life for theirs.
3. Your name… as a dad I gave my name to my children to give a piece of myself—my love, my life, my personality, my vision, my walk with God, to each of my kids…
4. Your sleeping child… try this again soon… just watching your child sleep and realizing the peace and seeing the tranquility of this event is profound, if you allow it. To realize that they are God’s heritage and that you are pouring out to them. The love of God, training them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
5. Your dinner table… a family meal is a fun experience at our house. Heaven’s banqueting table. The best barometer of family life. It takes work, but you can impart the heart of God at the dinner table. It’s a time for fun, laughter, questions, comments, and differences to come forth.
6. High school graduation… this recognizes a goal accomplished. It’s good to move on from the family home when the time is right. Remember, it’s a letting-go process. Keep healthy relationships intact as your child becomes an adult.
7. Their mate… it’s a cool thing to watch God put love in the hearts of your kids for their mates. They become a family unit. What’s really cool is that that mate truly loves my child with a deep love that is hard to find. Hopefully they’re tracking with God when they pick a mate.
8. The grandkids… this is the special joy. The attention, the treatment, the fun times when grandparents can really enjoy the process of child becoming parents—the whole experience.