10 Things More Important than Money$$$ on Fathers Day
June 9, 2008 by Scott Hammond
Filed under Family, Fathering, Relationships
10 THINGS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MONEY $$
Remember, there are many things in life that are far more important than the size of your investment portfolio or the size of your latest paycheck.
Too often in our capitalistic society, we place too much emphasis on financial achievement and too little on the importance of living a purpose driven life.
- Family… your spouse, your parents, and her kids should come first. Just simply providing for them does not make your family, your number one priority. There is far more you can do for them with quality and quantity time. Love is spelled…. TIME.
- Friends… the older some of us get, the less time we have for our friends. Some people get too busy climbing the success ladder and may not even make time for friends. Big mistake. So many things in our society are disposable, and sadly, friends too often fall into that category. Take time to invest in your friendships, both old and new. How hard is it to schedule a Starbucks coffee, pick up the phone, or write an e-mail?
- Your health… stress, poor diet, lack of exercise, poor relationships with you and your family… all of these can adversely affect your health. Getting caught up in your career and working endless hours can also lead to neglect of one’s health. Workaholism can be deadly. The lack of discipline in making exercise, sleep, a good diet, and a healthy lifestyle can be dangerous if not deadly as well. You get one body, take care of it and treat it with the respect it deserves.
- Kids… investing in your kids is absolutely one of the best investments you can make. Understanding how to relate to, love, care for, and communicate with your kids is vital to becoming a more fulfilled and complete person. Our future is our children. What kind of legacy are you leaving behind? Relationships that are fully orbed or just a fat portfolio?
- Education… being a lifelong learner is a lifelong process. It’s not about being enrolled in the school or a fancy college or receiving a piece of paper. It is, however, about being someone who is hungry to learn, willing to change, and ready to embrace new ways of looking at life and the universe. As long as you have your mental capacities, you can keep learning and building on what you already know. Your mind is a terrible thing to waste.
- Having fun… people get so caught up in society’s money game that wealth becomes an addiction, an obsession, and the purpose for their existence. How many wealthy people aren’t healthy people who spend far too much time and energy chasing promotions, money, and possessions. We can end up with lots of toys and turn out to be pretty unhappy people… big mistake.
- Solving social problems… how can you be a voice in society for those who do not have the ability to speak for themselves? Whether it’s poverty, divorce, suicide, teenage pregnancy, name your issue… you can have a voice and be part of the solution rather than part of the problem. Your community is full of opportunities for you to volunteer, donate time or money, and get involved.
- Your neighbors… give the neighbors a chance. Don’t write them off because they aren’t the same age, race, or occupation as you. What’s the sense of neglecting neighbors, since they can be sources of friendship, if given a chance? Part of our connection to the greater society is defined by our neighborhoods, which are full of neighbors— who could be friends we haven’t met yet.
- Appreciating/valuing what you have… right now make a list of 10 things that you really appreciate. What is on your list? Despite our overall affluence, we still lament material things we lack rather than appreciating and valuing the material and nonmaterial things we do have. Don’t forget relationships.
- Your reputation… a good name is to be had above riches. It takes a lifetime to build a reputation, but only moments to lose it. We chase after many things in life, and we often de-value and under-invest in relationships which should have our focus and priority. How many men have thrown it all away in a quick but twisted attempt at some forbidden fruit?
You Tube Video of Scott Hammond
April 23, 2008 by Scott Hammond
Filed under Fathering, Relationships, Scott Hammond
This is new and guaranteed to make you laugh a bit.
Thanks to my friends Tim and Art I now have my 1st video!
Thanks for taking a quick minute and giving me some valuable feedback on my Become a Better Father Video on You Tube….
Your opinion in valuable to me so be frank and honest… you will not hurt my feelings!
Discover new ways to love your family by being intentional today..
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Best,
Scott Hammond
McKinleyville, CA
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Secret#3. Time = Love.
November 10, 2007 by Scott Hammond
Filed under Family, Fathering, Relationships
Some fathers spend more time with their kids in one day, and some debts due in one week, or even one month!!
Why?…The difference?
Intentionality.
Time spent with your child shows your love by action.
We need both quality and quantity time with our kids.
We need to include them in our world, and include ourselves in their world.
Here’s some examples of what I do with my kids.
These are areas where we’ve found common ground to play together…
- hot tubbing
- trampoline
- on the swing
- basketball
- playing Legos
- playing boardgames
- doing crafts…
You get the picture… find common ground and leverage the time with your kids.
You must be intentional and methodical and sequential if you are to be successful in this endeavor of spending quality time with your kids…
This means…
- date your kids…Go to Starbucks, bagels, McDonald’s, ice cream or whatever
- put them in your day timer or in Outlook
- schedule them, as you would your most precious appointment… because that’s what these are.
have daily and weekly schedule routines together, including…
- Meal times… the best place to teach your kids your values, heritage, and spiritual foundation.
- Bedtimes… a key point in showing love, closing the day correctly, and praying together
- Weekly rituals… Friday night pizza, movie night, the family night etc….
- Running errands… always bring a kid with you on car rides… again leverage the time.
- Chores and projects… build relationships and teach a good work ethic… All in one package!
Let’s address the “I don’t have time” excuse.
Everyone has time, no exceptions.
We give time to what we value the most.
Create time today that you would normally spent on TV, the Internet, sports, hobbies, boating, hunting golfing, or just being lazy….. begin to incrementally give it to your children!
Just hang out with your family and kids because you want to and get to.
Not because you HAVE TO…
Make a solid choice of attitude and motivation.
We GET to hang out with our kids.. we are blessed and privileged!
How could you be more intentional and incremental in dating your kids?
Dream it, plan it, write it, and do it!
Follow through…
If not you, who?
If not now, when?

