I love many things about you…
Your hanging out with me during your time of growing up .
Your sense of humor.
Your spending time with me, doing chores, projects, and jobs around the house/property.
Your selfless generosity to your family and friends.
Your fierce friendship when sticking up for others.
Giving rides, money, pizza, and ice cream to those to whom it meant much.
Your kindness to strangers,business clients, and customers.
Your diligence at work, school, and home
Your brotherly nature and love for your family.
Your telling me about your day.
Your servant’s heart.
This was written a few years ago and applies even more today.
You are a God Guy who loves freely and we are infinitely proud and glad to have you as our son.
Happy 26th Birthday son!
The fifth and most important “tool” is a genuine relationship with God, both as an individual and as a family.
Writing about our relationship with God is extremely difficult. So let’s start with what it is not.
It is not:
- About attending church
- About giving money
- About being” good “
- About being religious
- About being condemning, condescending, or arrogant about one’s faith
- About religious activity, service, or lifestyle
What it is about could take up several pages .
But we’ll start with the following:
- Knowing and understanding God’s Word–the Bible and reading and meditating on it regularly.
- Understanding and having a genuine salvation/saving relationship with God by faith in Christ.
- Being a person who prays on a regular basis, who has two-way conversations with God.
- Being a person who’s quick to repent, be humble, and truly make things right, admitting it when you are wrong.
- Being a person who’s willing to serve others, even at your own expense.
- Living an obedient life, not out of obligation, but out of thankfulness and deep gratitude for all God has done for you.
- Allowing God’s full expression in your thoughts, deeds, words, motivation, attitude, resources, and so much more.
- Being a person who puts her walk with God as the number one priority in life, through prayer, Bible study, praise, worship, sharing my faith, serving my church and community and all fellow humans.
- Obeying God in the small stuff, being sensitive to details and doing the right thing even when no one is looking….even when it hurts.
- Relaxing, taking deep breaths, simply appreciating the life and the love God has given you, realizing you cannot add to this love. You can only respond to it by living in the moment, and being the obedient son/daughter He’s asked that you to be.
- Utilizing the gifts and the resources He’s given you in the way that He leads you.
- Having a heart attitude and disposition that seeks to glorify God in every aspect of life.
Though I have more than three compelling things to list that my dad did well, here are three that come quickly to mind.
1) My dad taught me the value and activity of work. He didn’t just tell me that it would be good for me, he forced me to learn to work at an early age and then called attention to all the benefits and rewards that were derived from my efforts. Many of those early lessons were difficult, oftentimes not fun…but infinitely valuable to me today.
2) My dad taught me the value of quality performance. He was never one to do a job in such a way as to simply get it done. He always focused on the quality of the job performance as one of its key measurements. In fact, while I was in 3rd grade he wrote something in my elementary school “autograph book” that I still have and remember today: “Any thing worth doing is worth doing well.” It’s great advice and better still if learned and practiced from an early age.
3) My dad taught me the value of a good story. My dad was a great storyteller in the tradition of many of the southern neighbors I grew up around in western Kentucky. His stories could make you laugh, could make you cry, could make you think, could make you cringe and were always guaranteed to make you feel better–whether it was the first or the hundred and first time you had heard them. He taught me that stories were a wonderful way to bridge the gap between people.
Scott, I don’t know if these help or not, but I applaud your efforts to show others how to Become A Better Father…the world certainly needs that right now.
All the best!
Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi
Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console;
To be understood as to understand;
To be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
5 Needs of Sons
|Date Posted: Monday, 30 April 2007|