Secret #4 Study your children
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As important as identifying your children’s strengths is being able and willing to identify their faults and weaknesses.
Having the courage to take a hard look at your child’s personal failures and weaknesses will enable you to begin to come behind them and support them.
This exercise, when done in love, can open the door for your fatherly coaching,encouragement, and training.
Another key to this is understanding the child behind the behavior.
For example, kids act out when they’re hungry, tired, sick, emotionally needy, or even need to poop. The key then becomes your ability to study and analyze the whole picture behind how your child is acting.
Can you see through their eyes and identify with empathy and understand why they’re acting as they are?
You must get understanding based on facts, not on…
- perception
- emotion
- a quick look
- a fast observation….
You must be willing to take the time and use the resources to get to know your kid. What is bothering, challenging, or troubling them? Is it physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, social, or something else you haven’t thought of? A quick and cursory look will not reveal what you must figure out to know your kids in order to support them…
How can we possibly give support, help, or guidance without knowing the root causes of the problems and issues our kids face?
It’s up to us as fathers to be keen observers of our kids, and to study their strengths and their weaknesses that we may support them….neglect and apathy is your number one enemy here.
Do you study your kids and know their gifts?
Do you know their weaknesses?
Are you currently resourcing their strengths and training and coaching their weaknesses?
Where your child’s three main strengths?
What are your child’s three main weaknesses?
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Posted on November 12th, 2007 by Scott Hammond
Filed under: Fathering
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