Secret #2. Unconditional Love-Focused Attention
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Definition: focused attention is giving a person your full, undivided attention.
It is the most demanding of the three needs as it takes time, energy, and giving up other activities in order for us to give our focused attention to the people we love.
The average father spends less than two minutes a day in contact with his kids.
This should not be.
We need to be able to give up the tyranny of the urgent and live in Stephen Covey’s “quadrant number four”, in which we do things that are the most productive.
This should include giving our children our focused attention as fathers…
Benefit: your child feels completely loved and valued.
They feel they’re the most important person in the world.
Kids do their best with focused attention as part of their lives.
It shows in their behavior, performance, attitude, and motivation.
Focused attention must be a daily occurrence, and we as dad’s need to make time to make that happen daily. This requires being intentional.
Focus attention becomes paramount in priority…
It comes before everything else… including….
- training
- guiding
- teaching
- example
It is the key to unlocking the door to being a great dad.
It should always be natural, comfortable, appropriate, and unhurried.
It will result in a child who…
- is comfortable with themselves and others
- is well-liked
- has a full emotional tank
- has good self-esteem
- it’s easy to communicate with
Are you giving your child emotional support through focused attention today?
If not, why not?
If not now, when?
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Posted on November 8th, 2007 by Scott Hammond
Filed under: Fathering
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