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Comment on Parenting Tip #1—For the Difficult Child by Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com

Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 01:01:13 +0000

Thanks for the tip! Sometimes, it can be difficult to be united if you have different opinions/styles of handling things. But yes, I do agree of the importance of being united and not contradicting each other especially in front of the child.

Comment on You just broke your child. Congratulations by Dan Pearce by Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com

Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 13:48:43 +0000

Fathers, do not exasperate your children but bring them up in the instruction of the Lord.

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Comment on “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” by Dan Pearce by Holly

Holly — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 20:41:06 +0000

I am in agreement with Jodi. They had a tense moment. We don’t know what kind of day that dad had to precipitate that response.
As a mom I of four I have found myself occasionally on the edge of losing it(shopping trips with kids are hard!) and talking through gritted teeth.
I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do, but it is not worthy of such outrage. I hope I am not judged solely on how my interactions with my children are on a bad day in a public place!
If we expect parents to be able to respond with love then perhaps we should be examples and show some compassion to this dad, who is for whatever reason stressed out and taking it out on the child.

Comment on “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” by Dan Pearce by Sandra

Sandra — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 16:12:24 +0000

As a mother of 4 boys, and grandma to 6, it can be dismaying to read such articles as above. There are many families who struggle to have positive relationships with their children. I certainly don’t profess to being the perfect mother because I know I wasn’t, in fact, I know my sons probably had a better dad than they did mum at times. He was the one who got down and played with them, bathed them if not working, etc
However, I always did my best when ever I could. But guess what, I have been like that father with the young child was too; did I deliberately set out to belittle my child/children at the time – NO, and just maybe this father was just the same.
We all have bad days where we act and react inappropriately. We should all be careful about what we do in public, but we should also be equally as careful of how we interpret the scene.
I pray that the father was just having a bad day and does have at least a reasonable relationship with his son. Further more, I pray that if his relationship is not great, that someone will have the courage enough to come along side him and offer some help.
The relationships we develop are often only as good as the relationships we grew up with and the examples our parents set. May God grant us the wisdom and power to change where necessary and be the loving parents He wants us to be. And if our children are grown up, that we can work to improve the relationships with our children and develop good positive relationships with our grandchildren.

Comment on “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” by Dan Pearce by Scott Hammond

Scott Hammond — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 03:02:25 +0000

Wow….Seems we struck a chord in the Universe of parenting and fathering in particular. You guys made this a viral experience in that all the commentary actually shut down our servers hosting this blog…

The commentary and the heart of the thought that many of you shared is truly amazing. Some of the stories were, in their own right, actually as amazing as Dan’s. I really liked and was touched with all the kudos to the AWESOME DADS out there in Parenting Land. Tip of the hat you cool dads….someone is noticing. Me for one.

In conclusion, thanks to the amazing writing of Dan Pearce—a hero of mine for sure. Carry on and live the amazing, positive legacy. BE THAT GUY.

—Scott Hammond, Author/Dad/Blogger/Dude

Comment on You just broke your child. Congratulations by Dan Pearce by Ginggoy

Ginggoy — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 15:41:38 +0000

Thanks for this.. I needed it to be a better Dad to my two sons..

Comment on “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” by Dan Pearce by Vonda

Vonda — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 06:38:31 +0000

Bravo!!!! to the person that wrote this articular! this touched my heart to no end, I have seen people Dads and Moms alike treat their precious children poorly in public, sad to say they probably do even worse at home =(
but it is a blessing that you have brought attention to this to the public eye, I believe that this is what the public needs. for More Dads and Moms to speak out and to stop and take a look at our own behavior and say enough! this abuse stops with US and Our generation!!!!! Refuse to treat children as you may have been treated! Refuse to carry on the bad you learned from someone that set a bad example when you were a child. give the love and time to your children that they need, it may be your only time with them.

Vonda

Comment on You just broke your child. Congratulations by Dan Pearce by Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com

Sebs | MaximizingMarriage.com — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 03:19:24 +0000

Awesome post! Thanks for challenging me to be a better dad!

P.S. Applies to moms too… =)

Comment on “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” by Dan Pearce by Carol Dysart

Carol Dysart — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:19:08 +0000

Parenting Tip – BRINGING HOME A NEW BABY

(from experiences with 2 ½ year old Autumn – 3-21-12)

Q: ON ARRIVING HOME WITH NEW (1st) BABY SISTER:

“Autumn is good, wants to hold her and play with her all the time. She is also getting more defiant. Lots of “mine” and “no”. But I am sure she will adjust.

A: We all know she doesn’t want to lose her positioning as #1. Just give her lots of special hugs and praise for who she IS (fun, cute, smart, loving, etc.) Not only for what she DOES for you. (“Thanks for getting me that cup.” “You are such a good helper for mommy.”)

Reflect back to her and check what she is thinking (not feeling) to let her know you are listening and care about her too. It has to be spelled out.

(“I’ll bet you are thinking that you might have to give up your toys or have to share everything with your new baby sister. Is that true?” “Are you thinking we won’t be able to pay enough attention to you?”)

She doesn’t make the bridge from past, loving actions. All is in the NOW for her. Let her know that you know what she is going through in adjusting to new addition to family.

(“I bet you are wondering if we still love you! You may be thinking ‘Wasn’t I enough?’ ‘Did I do something wrong?’ ‘How come they brought home another GIRL? – why not a boy – so I could still be special?’ “What we want you to know is how much love we all have to share – not only for you and Mommy and Daddy, but we have plenty left over for the new baby. Let’s think about all the ways we can show you we love you! (Make a list of some of the things you do with her – places to go – games you play – to demonstrate ways you show your love for her.”)

Then

“Let’s think of all the ways we can show the baby we love her too! – Let her have quiet when she is sleeping – take her for walks – bring her toys – tell her how much we all love her – etc.)

You can get a lot of mileage from interactions like the above once you have customized it for your own situations. Bring this conversation back to her a day or so later to find out what she really got from it. It will reinforce what you both created together.)

Lovings, Mom