Scott Hammond This is unfair,
In no particular order, and trying to avoid listing BEST OF AND GREATEST HITS albums—- I’d say..
1. The Beatles: Revolver, White Album, and Abbey Road amd …OK -Sgt. Peppers
2. Van Morrison-Tupelo Honey
3. Fleetwood Mac-Rumors
4. Pink Floyd–Dark Side of the Moon and Wish You Were Here
5. Various Artists–Woodstock Album
7. Jimi Hendrix-Are You Experienced
8. Yes–Fragile and Close to the Edge,
9. Beach Boys-pet Sounds
11. Rod Stewart-
12. David Bowie–Ziggy Stardust
13. Carole King–Tapestry
14. Eagles-Hotel California,
15. Rolling Stones–Let it Bleed
16. Bob Marley-Legend
17. Allman Bros.–Live @ Fillmore East
18. Neil Young-Harvest
19. David Gilmour-Live in Gdansk
20. John Lennon—Imagine/Plastic Ono band
21. Led Zepp–1 and 2 and 4.
22. Allman bros.–Eat a Peach
23. Elton John–Madman Across the Water/
24. The Kinks: Victoria,
25. janis Joplin–Pearl
26: Van Morrison–Moondance
27: James Taylor–Sweet Baby James
28: The Doors–LA Woman
29. The Band-the Band
30: Eric Clapton–Layla
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
One of the most powerful ways to communicate love to the people in your life is with words. Words matter. Yes, actions are necessary to back them up, but at the end of the day, you’ve just got to get some things said. Make it your goal to get these four phrases in your weekly, if not daily, vocabulary:
1: I love you.
Men, the key is to say it deliberately. Don’t mumble it into the phone and then hang up. “Whew. I said it and it didn’t get messy at all.” Yeah well, it needs to get a little messy. Get her in your arms, look in her eyes, and get it said: “I love you.” Or pull your kids to you, no matter their age and speak the words. They may fidget, but they’ll remember and be altered by your genuine expressions of love.
2: I need you.
I’ve been praying that the bedrooms of every married couple reading this will ring with these words. How about it, men? In your private moments, tell that woman who has stood by you how much you need her. Go ahead: “My actions may sometimes communicate the opposite, but I want you to know that I know I really need you.”
3: There is no one like you.
OK, ladies. Every man is one among millions. At work, he’s one among thousands. At church, he’s one among hundreds. So when he walks through that door each night, he desperately needs to know he is your one and only. He’s first, highest, and best. Tell him.
And that leads to . . .
4: I thank God for you.
Tell your beloved spouse, children, and parents that they are a gift from God to you. Better yet, pray aloud together. Let them overhear you tell the Lord how grateful you are that God gave them to you. Wives, tell your husband, “Honey, you’ve worked so hard lately and I so appreciate the way you try to take care of our family and the energy and effort that you put into providing for us. Thanks for being a faithful man.” Husbands, look for your opportunities to say, “Babe, thanks for one of the greatest meals I have ever had. What you made tonight was fit for a king.” And after she picks herself up off the floor, she’ll be like, “Uh, thanks.”
Get the words said. Yes, it really matters. Expressing your love is a huge piece of making your spouse and your family the priority, lifelong relationship that God designed for you and that you all desperately want.
Courtesy Walk in the Word
If we think our business struggles are tough…think about the things that are really important for perspective. I’ve included a speech Winston Churchill delivered in 1941 to the students at Harrow School, during WWII and it is pretty interesting when you relate it to our business circumstances. Read and enjoy.
Prime Minister Winston Churchill:
Almost a year has passed since I came down here at your Head Master’s kind invitation in order to cheer myself and cheer the hearts of a few of my friends by singing some of our own songs.
Body of speech
The ten months that have passed have seen very terrible catastrophic events in the world–ups and downs, misfortunes– but can anyone sitting here this afternoon, this October afternoon, not feel deeply thankful for what has happened in the time that has passed and for the very great improvement in the position of our country and of our home?
Why, when I was here last time we were quite alone, desperately alone, and we had been so for five or six months. We were poorly armed. We are not so poorly armed today; but then we were very poorly armed. We had the unmeasured menace of the enemy and their air attack still beating upon us, and you yourselves had had experience of this attack; and I expect you are beginning to feel impatient that there has been this long lull with nothing particular turning up!
But we must learn to be equally good at what is short and sharp and what is long and tough. It is generally said that the British are often better at the last. They do not expect to move from crisis to crisis; they do not always expect that each day will bring up some noble chance of war; but when they very slowly make up their minds that the thing has to be done and the job put through and finished, then, even if it takes months – if it takes years – they do it.
Another lesson I think we may take, just throwing our minds back to our meeting here ten months ago and now, is that appearances are often very deceptive, and as Kipling well says, we must “…meet with Triumph and Disaster. And treat those two impostors just the same.”
You cannot tell from appearances how things will go. Sometimes imagination makes things out far worse than they are; yet without imagination not much can be done. Those people who are imaginative see many more dangers than perhaps exist; certainly many more than will happen; but then they must also pray to be given that extra courage to carry this far-reaching imagination.
But for everyone, surely, what we have gone through in this period–I am addressing myself to the School–surely from this period of ten months, this is the lesson:
Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never–in nothing, great or small, large or petty–never give in, except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.
We stood all alone a year ago, and to many countries it seemed that our account was closed, we were finished. All this tradition of ours, our songs, our School history, this part of the history of this country, were gone and finished and liquidated.
Very different is the mood today. Britain, other nations thought, had drawn a sponge across her slate. But instead our country stood in the gap. There was no flinching and no thought of giving in; and by what seemed almost a miracle to those outside these Islands, though we ourselves never doubted it, we now find ourselves in a position where I say that we can be sure that we have only to persevere to conquer.
You sang here a verse of a School Song: you sang that extra verse written in my honor, which I was very greatly complimented by and which you have repeated today. But there is one word in it I want to alter – I wanted to do so last year, but I did not venture to. It is the line: “Not less we praise in darker days.”
I have obtained the Head Master’s permission to alter darker to sterner. “Not less we praise in sterner days.”
Do not let us speak of darker days: let us speak rather of sterner days. These are not dark days; these are great days–the greatest days our country has ever lived; and we must all thank God that we have been allowed, each of us according to our stations, to play a part in making these days memorable in the history of our race.
It is interesting that Churchill is grateful for the challenges and troubles of that period. If you’ll remember Admiral Stockdale also expressed gratitude for his imprisonment in Viet Nam…he called it the defining time of his life and would not change it. So…can we be glad we’re in this economy, this period that has enormous challenges? Maybe, yes.
Thanks to Brent Skinner
1. Access isn’t presence. You can still “be there” and offer value to your clients if you’re across the country.
2. Activity isn’t results. Beware of mistaking one for the other.
3. Advising isn’t listening. Especially if the person didn’t ASK you for advice.
4. Being alone isn’t loneliness. It’s just a healthy form of solitude that all humans need.
5. Art isn’t linear. So, beware of imposing too many rules.
6. Attention isn’t infinite. Make sure your message is quick, simple and digestible.
7. Biography isn’t destiny. Because you ALWAYS have a choice.
8. Change isn’t weakness. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
9. Complaining isn’t attractive. Like farting, complaining relieves you but annoys others.
10. Create without responsibility. And just make art for the sake of making art.
11. Creativity isn’t enough. Nope. You need talent, discipline and passion.
12. Difficult isn’t impossible. Keep plugging away.
13. Duplicity isn’t advantageous. Don’t allow your mind to split.
14. Education isn’t knowing. No matter how many books you read.
15. Evidence isn’t proof. It only suggests the possibility of proof.
16. Excellence isn’t optional. It’s the price of admission.
17. Facelessness isn’t accidental. People are monoliths because they choose to be.
18. Faith isn’t fact. You don’t “know,” you simply “believe.”
19. Fit isn’t thin. Magazines are liars.
20. Growth isn’t automatic. It’s a choice. It’s a daily duty.
21. Humility isn’t weakness. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
22. Information isn’t communication. Make your emails shorter.
23. Information isn’t wisdom. Because we learn not from our experiences, but from intelligent reflection upon them.
24. Knowing isn’t understanding. You have to LIVE it first.
25. Listening isn’t agreeing. It’s OK to say, “I respectfully disagree.”
26. Motion isn’t progress. Is what you’re doing RIGHT NOW consistent with your #1 goal?
27. Obvious isn’t easy. Be careful what you dismiss.
28. Passion isn’t unrealistic. It only seems that way to people who are too afraid to express their passion.
29. Pressuring isn’t listening. It’s just awkward.
30. Quitting isn’t failing. Not if you do it at the right time.
31. Reading isn’t believing. Doing, living, being – now THAT’S believing!
32. Respect isn’t weakness. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
33. Retreat isn’t defeat. Walking away is smart.
34. Satisfaction isn’t retention. The real question is, “How many of their friends did they tell about you?”
35. School isn’t education. Where’s your classroom?
36. Success isn’t bestsellers. It’s contribution, significance and validation.
37. Success isn’t perfection. How often do you screw up?
38. Sunday isn’t enough. Your spiritual practice is daily.
39. Suspending isn’t losing. Don’t be such a control freak.
40. Technique isn’t enough. Nope. Your heart and soul must be there too. Or else the audience will KNOW.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
What misconceptions might be hurting YOUR life?
It has now become necessary that fathers understand a few top 10 ways to become a better dad because those days are gone when the mother was solely responsible for the overall upbringing of the child.
The first way that comes to mind is to spend a greater amount of time with your kid. Either you spend time with your kid now or watch him fly away as he grows up. Time comes first. Quality time comes next. Once you have planned the time to give to your child, then, look at ways to make the most and best of this time.
The second way to become a better dad is to take an interest in what the kid is doing. Kids are smart and can tell when the dad is actually interested in what they are doing. They will respond to daddy once they understand that what they do is important to dad. If they can see that dad does not consider their activities and concerns as important, they will take it as a lack of support.
Third is to participate with the children in their activities. Just try and study, play and participate in their activities and see the difference. Any child would love to have the feeling that his day to day activities are as interesting to his dad as it is to him. He immediately gets a friend.
Fourth, trust the kid. He is one small guy, facing the whole wide world and the only person he feels safe with is you. Repose the same trust in him. When he makes a mistake, try and get to the bottom of the problem and resolve it.
Do not blame the kid without full investigation. In case the fault is with the child, try and understand the circumstances. Give the child the understanding so that he can cope with similar situations better.
Another way would be to eat at least one meal together everyday as this is the time when you are most relaxed and you can simply chat with your kid over a meal.
Next be with the kids at bed time. This is the time when they like to be calmed down after an active day. They need to be re-assured that their parents are there just before slipping off to sleep.
To become a loving father to your kids, making a habit of reading aloud to the child at bedtime everyday will give him a sense of steadiness as well as enjoyment.
Praying together is another way of bonding with the child.
Lay down basic rules and be firm, but not inflexible about them.
Get to know his friends and involve yourself in some activity together with them.
These are a few top 10 ways to become a better dad and following them will definitely bring your relationship with your child forward.
Vincent Yim is the founder of http://BetterSmarterKids.com, he created kid’s weblog is for the purpose of providing a platform to all parents who can share and learn valuable ideas and tips in bringing up our children by understanding their interest behaviors viz children healthy foods, educational toys, kids hobbies, clothing, activities and games, schooling and moral values….etc.
How to really whack at your kids… to truly mess up their innocence.—
I was flying on a plane and the folks across from you had a small boy named Alex. Alex was all boy… he was a hopelessly curious, always processing information, thinking, learning and asking questions. What was interesting about the story is that his folks were compelled to constantly correct is data. They corrected his questions, comments, deductions, vocabulary, language usage and so much more. They seemed compelled to be right more than they were about loving their Alex. In my mind, they were whacking their son, and setting them up for some sort of pathology as he grew older.
Children possess a rare innocence in Christ said, lest you become as a child you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven. They’re loving innocence and kindness makes them a model to learn from.
We as parents to take this innocence away with our sarcasm and snotty and snippy words and attitudes. Our anger and frustration and ongoing angst truly tends to whack our kids. Many of us have to be correct and right all the time or else... life becomes unchecked.
All of these corrections, reality checks, and “talkin tos” in the name of helping our children equates to cruelty, madness and translating much of our own personal issues and baggage over tour kids… why can’t we just be merciful?
Why can’t we just go with it when they’re in a stream of conscious flow of thought? Why can’t we urge them on as they dream out loud? Why can’t we verbally endorse their process and not worry so much about their content or conclusions, exclusively?
We can always come back later and dialogue and discover what is truth incorrect and right and good— but how can we ever get there if we are so busy correcting little Alex and his plethora of poor communication and logic?
The madness, we parents and adults possess and wanting to be correct– coupled with our moodiness is something that truly monitor and become aware of. … so as to intentionally jettison. We need to see our issues and own and fix them. We need to be in the moment and be present and enjoy our kids rather than hurt their hearts. We need to truly encourage the development and thought process so they can eventually discover the truth, and thereby be set free.
Next time your kid begins to verbally explore their world— go with it. You don’t have to be right or correct or the boss in authority (you are). You do need to be merciful and kind and gentle. You do need to see your own issues and tendencies in moodiness and anger and own them. You do need to be intentional about your issues to fix them. Quit trying to fix other people and go ahead and fix yourself. Quit trying to be correct and illicit rightness from all those around you and concentrate on being right in your own heart.
Be here now.
Enjoy the ride!
Work Stress and Marriage
By: Ken Canfield
Stress is contagious. In this age of high expectations and long work hours, it’s easy for a man to bring his worries and frustrations home and spread them all over the household.
A dad might treat his family like his boss treats him, which can be very destructive. Or some men might start resenting their family responsibilities, and expect to just relax on the sofa when they get home. Of course, that’s an insult to wives, since they have stresses of their own after a day corralling the kids or working somewhere else.
What can we do?
First, recognize the value of “decompression time.” Take some time in the car or in your first few minutes home to adjust your frame of mind. Exercise, read the newspaper, shower, change clothes. After a few minutes alone, you can shift gears and be ready for family time.
Second, keep communicating?even about the stresses you’re facing. It’s easy for a wife to feel like she’s going through the stressful work situation with her husband. But if she is informed about your work situation and she believes in the value of the work you’re doing, that will be a positive factor. Communicating will help both of you stay aware of the stresses, and can make you both more forgiving when one of you is in a bad mood.
Third, realize that sometimes bigger steps are necessary. If you’re stressed out or blaming your family for your tension, or if there’s a growing distance between you and your wife, it may be time to start thinking about a job change. Have a heart-to-heart about your true values and priorities.
Looking for a less stressful, more flexible position may cause more stress for a while, but you know you’re doing it for the right reasons. Even if the new position pays less, that’s an adjustment that most families can make. And isn’t your marriage worth it?
You know, there are a lot of divorced men and fathers right now still working in high-stress jobs who regret not making changes sooner to try to save their families.
Dad, don’t let a stressful job slowly erode the foundations of your marriage and family. Take steps to protect it, starting today.