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		<title>Goal-setting for the Every Day Person</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 08 Jan 2011 19:19:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Why Goals? Why set goals? Why document priorities? Why plan your life? Why live life on purpose? Setting smart goals offers focus and efficiency of effort. Goal setting offers a father the opportunity to live their life with passion and do what’s most important to them.  These key purposes offer a life lived on purpose. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h5><strong><a href="http://becomeabetterfather.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/shutterstock_29806798.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1903" title="shutterstock_29806798" src="http://becomeabetterfather.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/shutterstock_29806798-300x223.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="223" /></a>Why Goals?</strong></h5>
<p>Why set goals? Why document priorities? Why plan your life? Why live life on purpose?</p>
<p><strong>Setting smart goals offers focus and efficiency of effort.</strong> Goal setting offers a father the opportunity to live their life with passion and do what’s most important to them.  These key purposes offer a life lived on purpose.</p>
<p>Putting your passion on paper and discovering what your true desires are, committing to these things in the form of goals, is a vehicle to achievement and accomplishment. When you truly discover your passions and desires and are willing to write out cogent outcomes in the form of smart goals you are on your way to living a life with purpose and fulfillment.</p>
<div id="_mcePaste">What Is The Purpose Of Goals?</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">For one thing, goals concentrate and give focus to our personal energy. When we get the goal setting process right, they do this very well. By defining what we want to do and then set reasonable time limits in which to get things done, goals bring out the best in us. With focused, concentrated goals and reasonable plans to achieve them, we will behave very much like a laser beam. Focused goals, like the light of a laser, can excite and motivate a wide variety of spectacular tasks and follow-through behaviors of all kinds for us.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">Goals need to be smart, specific, time driven, challenging, written, and achievable. Vague and hazy goals are not goals at all. Goals must be specific, periodically reviewed, shared with others, and flexible. It&#8217;s okay to change your goals and rearrange priorities on the fly. Flexibility is a hallmark of good goal setting. Priorities change-people change-situations change-circumstances change&#8230; and so should your goals. Our focus changes as our lives change. It&#8217;s okay to change your goals.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">The power of the mind, coupled with sustained effort, brainpower, focus, and hard work and diligence create an unstoppable force in achievement and overcoming obstacles. Bringing visions to reality requires the ability to dream dreams, see the big picture vision, and then determine to realize the dreams. Goal setting as a life practice and purpose driven priority planning is a great means to fulfill and leverage your gifts and talents and to live your life and purpose.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">You must do the work. You must do the planning and preplanning, execution and review. In order for goal achievement and accomplishment to take place, you must do the work. There is no free lunch in goal achievement. There are no shortcuts. There are no ways to cheat the system. You must do the work.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">You must be incremental, methodical, and sequential. This will require faithfulness day to day perhaps for years-but it will be worth it when you achieve what you truly set out to do. Doing something incrementally for 30 minutes a day is far more compelling than the periodic spasms we often have which lead to inconsistent effort and therefore inconsistent results.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">Faithfulness in goal setting fuels passion and accomplishment. You must set out to be faithful, diligent, and methodical even when&#8212;or especially when&#8212;you don&#8217;t feel like it. To work on your goals daily, despite feelings of the contrary, is necessary to achievement of goals and therefore a life with purpose. To fulfill your goals, you must be faithful, to be incremental. It takes a diligent faithfulness and loyalty to the mission to go forward on a daily basis in the face of obstacles and challenges, to press onward towards your life goals and accomplishments.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">Goal Tools you can use include:</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">Write down your goals on paper. &#8211;They need to be specific, measurable, aligned, realistic, and timely. Accountability&#8211;you must be accountable in order to be successful. Inspiration&#8211;you need something larger than yourself to motivate you toward your goals.</div>
<div id="_mcePaste">One way to get started in your passion plan is to take a retreat, a passion retreat. Take some time away to relax, reflect, and experience renewal. Write and keep a log and record your discoveries.</div>
<p>What Is The Purpose Of Goals?  For one thing, goals concentrate and give focus to our personal energy. When we get the goal setting process right, they do this very well. By defining what we want to do and then set reasonable time limits in which to get things done, goals bring out the best in us. With focused, concentrated goals and reasonable plans to achieve them, we will behave very much like a laser beam. Focused goals, like the light of a laser, can excite and motivate a wide variety of spectacular tasks and follow-through behaviors of all kinds for us.<br />
Goals need to be smart, specific, time driven, challenging, written, and achievable. Vague and hazy goals are not goals at all. Goals must be specific, periodically reviewed, shared with others, and flexible. It&#8217;s okay to change your goals and rearrange priorities on the fly. Flexibility is a hallmark of good goal setting. Priorities change-people change-situations change-circumstances change&#8230; and so should your goals. Our focus changes as our lives change. It&#8217;s okay to change your goals.<br />
The power of the mind, coupled with sustained effort, brainpower, focus, and hard work and diligence create an unstoppable force in achievement and overcoming obstacles. Bringing visions to reality requires the ability to dream dreams, see the big picture vision, and then determine to realize the dreams. Goal setting as a life practice and purpose driven priority planning is a great means to fulfill and leverage your gifts and talents and to live your life and purpose.<br />
You must do the work. You must do the planning and preplanning, execution and review. In order for goal achievement and accomplishment to take place, you must do the work. There is no free lunch in goal achievement. There are no shortcuts. There are no ways to cheat the system. You must do the work.<br />
You must be incremental, methodical, and sequential. This will require faithfulness day to day perhaps for years-but it will be worth it when you achieve what you truly set out to do. Doing something incrementally for 30 minutes a day is far more compelling than the periodic spasms we often have which lead to inconsistent effort and therefore inconsistent results.<br />
Faithfulness in goal setting fuels passion and accomplishment. You must set out to be faithful, diligent, and methodical even when&#8212;or especially when&#8212;you don&#8217;t feel like it. To work on your goals daily, despite feelings of the contrary, is necessary to achievement of goals and therefore a life with purpose. To fulfill your goals, you must be faithful, to be incremental. It takes a diligent faithfulness and loyalty to the mission to go forward on a daily basis in the face of obstacles and challenges, to press onward towards your life goals and accomplishments.<br />
Goal Tools you can use include:  Write down your goals on paper. &#8211;They need to be specific, measurable, aligned, realistic, and timely. Accountability&#8211;you must be accountable in order to be successful. Inspiration&#8211;you need something larger than yourself to motivate you toward your goals.<br />
One way to get started in your passion plan is to take a retreat, a passion retreat. Take some time away to relax, reflect, and experience renewal. Write and keep a log and record your discoveries.</p>
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		<title>2010 Best of Zen Habits Post written by Leo Babauta.</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I don’t keep track of stats anymore so I don’t know which posts you guys liked best. It was interesting to see the results. Here are the Top 20 posts as chosen by all of you: you’re already perfect the lost art of solitude The Case Against Christmas Presents Simplify, and Savor Life the best [...]]]></description>
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<p style="text-align: left;">I don’t keep track of stats anymore so</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">I don’t know which posts you guys liked best.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">It was interesting to see the results.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Here are the Top 20 posts as chosen by all of you:</p>
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<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/perfect/">you’re already perfect</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/solitude/">the lost art of solitude</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/bah/">The Case Against Christmas Presents</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/savor/">Simplify, and Savor Life</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/no-goal/">the best goal is no goal</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/anti-success/">Why I don’t care about success</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/doing/">the zen of doing</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/light/">the elements of living lightly</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/space/">Life’s missing white space</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/creative-habit/">The No. 1 Habit of Highly Creative People</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/simple-morning/">A simplified morning routine</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/brief-guide/">a brief guide to life</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/kill-your-to-do-list/">Kill Your To-Do List</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/no-hurry/">How Not to Hurry</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/kindfully/">kindfully + mindfully</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/achieving/">achieving, without goals</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/300-word-positivity/">How to Be a Positive Person, in Under 300 Words</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/procrastination/">The Little Book of Procrastination Remedies</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/tao-of-productivity/">the tao of productivity</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/get-inspired/">Get Inspired</a></li>
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<p style="text-align: left;">A few other posts I’d recommend:</p>
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<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/barefoot-philosophy/">the barefoot philosophy</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/doubts/">the insidious perfidiousness of doubts, overcome</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/car-free/">lessons from a car-free life</a></li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/little-inspiration-guide/">The Little Guide to Inspiration</a></li>
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<h3 style="text-align: left;">And more</h3>
<p style="text-align: left;">For more best of Zen Habits:</p>
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<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/best-of-zen-habits-in-2007/">Best of Zen Habits in 2007</a>.</li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/the-essential-zen-habits-of-2008/">The Essential Zen Habits of 2008</a>.</li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/essential-2009/">The Essential Zen Habits of 2009</a>.</li>
<li><a href="http://zenhabits.net/start/">The Beginner’s Guide to Zen Habits – A Guided Tour</a></li>
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<p style="text-align: left;">—<br />
<strong>Read more about focus and getting great things done<br />
in Leo’s book, <a href="http://focusmanifesto.com/">focus</a>.</strong></p>
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		<title>CAN YOU EVER GET IT &#8220;ALL&#8221; DONE? (http://www.times-standard.com/business/ci_16728000)</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Dec 2010 15:19:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do we ever truly get it all done? To think that we could have it completely whipped is a fallacy and a dangerous life paradigm. Could you get at least some of it done? It is possible. Here are a few ways and strategies that can increase your productivity: 1. Schedule your time for work [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Do we ever truly get it all done?</p>
<p>To think that we could have it completely whipped is a fallacy and a dangerous life paradigm. Could you get at least some of it done? It is possible. Here are a few ways and strategies that can increase your productivity:</p>
<p>1. Schedule your time for work &#8212; be consistent. Don&#8217;t do personal things in your schedule to work. Make it to do list and prioritize your tasks. A list is often more effective for those of us need to consult a reference or see it in writing. When you&#8217;ve completed a task, cross off your list. You get a real sense of completion in satisfaction as you see your list getting shorter and shorter.</p>
<p>2. Do the most difficult, time-consuming, least favorite jobs first &#8212; do the first things first. Do the hardest task at hand when you have the most energy and motivation to tackle the project. If you tackle the toughest job first, the rest of your tasks will seem that much easier.</p>
<p>3. Do not allow yourself to get interrupted by other people&#8217;s emergencies or drama-be able to say “No.” Learn to have boundaries. Learn to say no and a polite but firm way. Be professional, kind and understanding, but also be ready to use the most famous boundary word of them all: No.</p>
<p>4. Organize your files-set up the system right from the beginning. Don&#8217;t reinvent the wheel. Use a Day-Timer for scheduling. Have a 31-day and 12-month filing system. You can have technology, but don&#8217;t let technology have you. Do not reinvent the wheel. An ordered space will allow you to be less stressed.</p>
<p>5. Organize your workspace-the better organized and efficient your workspace, the more efficient you will be in time management. The time it takes you to search through out all your piles of paper or to remember where you put that file could be spent in working on new projects. Put the things you use most on your desktop and always put them back in the same place when you&#8217;re done. Keep a file organizer on your desk for current projects, so they are always at your finger tips. Have clearly delineated places for everything.</p>
<p>In conclusion, plan your work and work your plan. Translate intention into action daily by budgeting time for what is most important. Leverage your gifts ,skill-sets, and time and you will make the difference in your world.<a href="http://becomeabetterfather.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/shutterstock_40346767.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1785" title="shutterstock_40346767" src="http://becomeabetterfather.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/shutterstock_40346767-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="200" /></a></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Time management— We all possess valuable resources, but none is trickier or more valuable than time.  Managing your time is THE key skill set in managing your life.  Show me what you do with your time and I’ll show you what your value system is all about. When leveraging time you will utilize and expand [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Time management</strong><strong>—</strong></p>
<p>We all possess valuable resources, but none is trickier or more valuable than time.  Managing your time is THE key skill set in managing your life.  Show me what you do with your time and I’ll show you what your value system is all about. When leveraging time you will utilize and expand on core strength.  If you can manage your time well you can accomplish almost anything.  Using time incrementally, methodically, and strategically will help you stay on track and achieve your life priorities.</p>
<p>Personal productivity is only as limited as your proper use of time.  Wise use of time maximizes and leverages all resources and helps you achieve your goals, objectives, and priorities.  Good time management allows you to plan ahead and to use your purpose and passion with laser focus—nothing becomes impossible.  Your productivity, as you leverage your passion through good time management, increases exponentially resulting in compelling accomplishment.</p>
<p>“Plan your work, then work your plan” is a great axiom.  The “work your plan” part has to do with time management.  Planning is great, but is useless without execution.  Time management is all about the execution of your plans, goals, passions, and objectives.</p>
<p>Time management can be leveraged through productivity systems and good planning.</p>
<p>The 80-20 rule is evidence of this…. You accomplish about 80% of your results from 20% of your work.  The key here is to find your personal “prime time” then leverage that time in the most productive way possible.  To schedule around your 20% “prime time”, where you are most productive and efficient is the key to leveraging time, productivity, and accomplishment. For most people their prime time is in the morning.  This is the time to get all of your core work accomplished.  This key time is to be secured and set aside as the valuable commodity it truly is. Prime work time should be scheduled on a daily basis and should have compelling content at its core. Planning, goal setting, reviewing, communicating, executing initiatives, key meetings, key document creation, and much more are all the key elements of utilizing your prime time window.</p>
<p>Procrastination and its opposite  workaholism are both dysfunction to avoid.  Our society allows for both to its detriment.  It takes discipline and self control to avoid the dysfunction of workaholism and over commitment and the sickness and the result they produce. The same can be said of procrastination—we are to avoid it like the plague. It all starts with analysis and admission and truly owning our own poor habits.</p>
<p>The idea here is to have a balanced life. This begins with healthy relationships and healthy personal spirit.  Living your life in balance and alignment starts with living your priorities.  The piece and congruity that results is compelling.  A life lived well, living your priorities, and being able to have fun productivity that energizes you is a compelling work style/lifestyle.</p>
<p>The Covey idea of sharpening your saw and resting so you can work more efficiently is the key.  A life lived in balance with family, work, community, friendships, and personal fulfillment is truly a productive life.</p>
<p>It all starts at time management, personal discipline, and self-control.  Just do it.</p>
<p><strong> Time management is&#8212;</strong></p>
<p>The definition of Time management is a set of skills, tools, and systems that work together to help you get more value out of your time and leverage it to accomplish what you want.</p>
<p><strong>Learning time management will do the following:</strong></p>
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<li>Give a personal definition of time management, and how you can use it</li>
<li>Help you know the signs that you’re off-track</li>
<li>Help you know the signs that you are on the right track</li>
<li>Help you know what your focus should be on</li>
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<p><strong>You know you’re on the right track when—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Your customers, boss, family and peers praise your accomplishments.</li>
<li>You meet your sales, personal, or family goals and have a positive performance</li>
<li>You are often considered for additional responsibility and special projects.</li>
<li> You feel good about your work and family and are energized by them.</li>
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<p><strong>You know you’re off-track, when—</strong></p>
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<li>You’re working really hard, and little is being accomplished</li>
<li>You’re not meeting your sales, personal, business, or family goals</li>
<li>People around you complain about you</li>
<li>You’re the only one who seems to think you’re doing a great job.</li>
<li>You’re always putting out fires</li>
<li>You’re spending a lot of his time socializing and complaining</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>Eight most common time wasters—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Lack of planning</li>
<li>Lack of priorities</li>
<li>Over commitment</li>
<li>Management by crisis</li>
<li>Haste</li>
<li>Paperwork and reading e-mail</li>
<li>Routine tasks</li>
<li>The telephone</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>How to combat procrastination—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Accept that procrastination is common, and that you are not unique</li>
<li>Fearing failure is absolutely normal… we often procrastinate because we fear failure</li>
<li>If you find you tend to procrastinate in certain situations… face them head on</li>
<li>Never choose low priority work in front of high priority work</li>
<li>Control your socializing at work</li>
<li>Schedule start time as well, as the finished time for your work being planned</li>
<li>Adopt single handling thinking. Touch it wants.  You’ll pick up one job only and only put it down when it’s finished. Multitasking is a myth…</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>We should focus on activities that—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Contribute to your customer,  family, stakeholders success and satisfaction</li>
<li>Booster personal productivity and performance</li>
<li>Support your family or organization’s strategic vision and goals</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>Time management tips—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Know and use your calendar or Daytimer</li>
<li>Prioritize demands on your time</li>
<li>Keep your priority list in front of you</li>
<li> Keep checking your progress with time management.</li>
<li>Stockpile work or questions, and to schedule says its time work on them.  Only work on things in your scheduled to do so.</li>
<li>Seek support when you need it— delegate</li>
<li>Develop techniques that help you when in a unique situation</li>
<li>Pick a morning or an evening to work when no one is around and get organized.  Order creates less stress and helps focus</li>
<li>Spend a few minutes at the end of the day putting everything in its home base and getting ready for the next day.  Remember… trash it, act on it, refer it, or file it away.</li>
</ol>
<p>10.  Keep yourself motivated.</p>
<p><strong>More tips for time management—</strong></p>
<p>Making a commitment that you’ll measure time more efficiently to be the best promise you ever make to yourself.  In the long run, you’ll be glad you did.  Here are some tips that may help to some move your way to a little more time efficient life.  You may even find that after you get the hang of it, you’ll have more free time!!</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Manage your availability</strong>— in which coworkers know when you are available to help them and when you’re not.</li>
<li><strong>Learn to prioritize</strong>—one of the most important things you can do in your search for more time. Prioritize your commitments.  If you belong to any organizations that are turned into obligations, just give up your membership.  There is not enough time to spend on doing things which aren’t that important to you.</li>
<li><strong>Make all your calls in the morning</strong>—this is when people are most likely to be available.  Then, block off the rest of your day on interrupted work.</li>
<li><strong>Schedule time every week to take care of your filing</strong>—take time every week to get your filing done and keep up the organizing and purging of your files.  This will go a long way to help you stay on top of your job responsibility.  The get and stay organized.</li>
<li><strong>Create an activity log</strong>—keep a detailed personal activity log for several days to determine how you’re actually using your time.  See where you’re spending too much and not enough time.</li>
<li> <strong>Control your busywork</strong>—it’s not always easy to admit that sometimes we allow ourselves to get immersed in busywork.  Focus on the job at hand and don’t let meaningless tasks consume your precious time.</li>
<li><strong>Create a system for yourself</strong>—no one knows your schedule better than you do.  Incorporate simple and effective systems in your life that help you do what must be done on a daily basis so that you actually can get things accomplished.  Get a routine and form positive habits.</li>
<li><strong>Don’t bite off more than you can chew</strong>—break up big projects into manageable pieces.  Divide your projects and concentrate on one part at a time. Gradual progress and growth is the best practice.</li>
<li><strong>Never forced the finishing of a project, if it can be helped</strong>—there’s no point in force yourself to finish a job when you’re not making any headway.  Switch to another project in the new challenge will refresh and renew your mind so that you can return to the original job.   You will then feel ready to complete it.</li>
</ol>
<p>10.  <strong>Plan ahead</strong>—this tip will eliminate the procrastination and ensure higher productivity.  Estimate how long a job will take.  Then at about one third more time.  Then count the number of days back from the deadline, and set that as your defining starting point…Hot tip!</p>
<p>11.  .<strong>Learn what is urgent, versus what is important</strong>—there is a tremendous difference.  Too often we respond to the urgent and forfeit the necessary.  In other words, things that demand our media attention usurp what is necessary.  By contrast, important tasks might not require an instant response, but they necessitate important activities that will keep you on track in achieving your goals. Be wary of the Tyranny of the Urgent!</p>
<p>12.  <strong>Under promise and over deliver</strong>—this is a very old axiom, but nonetheless very true.  Never promised too much; you’re more likely to disappoint people.  Instead, with all things, under promise and over deliver.  People will be pleasantly surprised when you’re done more than originally planned.</p>
<p><strong>Five ways to improve productivity—</strong></p>
<p>There is so much happening and less and less time to handle of all these days. Learning how to increase your productivity could give you the edge you need to get it all done.  The idea of getting it all done is nebulous at best.</p>
<p>Do we ever truly get it all done?</p>
<p>To think that we could have it completely whipped is a fallacy and a dangerous life paradigm.  Could you get at least some of it done?  It is possible…. here are a few ways and strategies that can increase your productivity:</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Schedule your time for work</strong>—be consistent.  Don’t do personal things in your schedule to work.  Make it to do list and prioritize your tasks.  A list is often more effective for those of us need to consult a reference or see it in writing.  When you’ve completed a task, cross off your list.  You get a real sense of completion in satisfaction as you see your list getting shorter and shorter.</li>
<li><strong>Do the most difficult, time-consuming, least favorite jobs first</strong>&#8212; do the first things first.  Do the hardest task at hand when you have the most energy and motivation to tackle the project.  If you tackle the toughest job first, the rest of your tasks will seem that much easier.</li>
<li><strong>Do not allow yourself to get interrupted by other people’s emergencies or drama</strong>—be able to say No.  Learn to have boundaries.  Learn to say no and a polite but firm way.  Be professional, kind and understanding, but also be ready to use the most famous boundary word of them all: NO.</li>
<li><strong>Organize your files—</strong>set up the system right from the beginning.  Don’t reinvent the wheel.  Use a Daytimer for scheduling. Have a 31 day and 12 month filing system. You can have technology, but don’t let technology have you. Do not reinvent the wheel.  An ordered space will allow you to be less stressed.
<ol>
<li><strong>Organize your workspace</strong>—the better organized and efficient your workspace, the more efficient you will be in time management.  The time it takes you to search through out all your piles of paper or to remember where you put that file could be spent in working on new projects.  Put the things you use most on your desktop and always put them back in the same place when you’re done.  Keep a file organizer on your desk for current projects, so they are always at your finger tips.  Have clearly delineated places for everything.</li>
</ol>
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		<title>Discovering Mercy/Being Forgiven of $331.00</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I got a speeding ticket for going 54 in a 35 zone right in my Hometown one Monday last July. Bail&#8230;.$331.00 american dollars. I paid the fine and went to traffic court to explain why&#8230; I was surprized by what I found&#8211; The Judge My accusor The Law Authority My Guilt Other guilty people and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I got a speeding ticket for going 54 in a 35 zone right in my Hometown one Monday last July.</p>
<p>Bail&#8230;.$331.00 american dollars.</p>
<p>I paid the fine and went to traffic court to explain why&#8230;</p>
<p>I was surprized by what I found&#8211;</p>
<ol>
<li>The Judge</li>
<li>My accusor</li>
<li>The Law</li>
<li>Authority</li>
<li>My Guilt</li>
<li>Other guilty people</li>
<li>and then&#8230;Mercy</li>
</ol>
<p>Long Story Short&#8230;I got forgiven the ticket and my money back because they lacked a document.</p>
<p>My &#8220;Aha&#8221; moments&#8230;</p>
<p>Law and authority is real and can really change your life&#8211;ask they guy who lost his licence.</p>
<p>Mercy, grace, and forgiveness is cool and we/I need to play it forward&#8211;give mercy to those around me-by the handfuls.</p>
<p>I think I will slow down as well&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Whiners,Gossipers, and Complainers Take Heed!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 30 Dec 2009 18:19:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Scott Hammond</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My father in law just gave my wife and I one of those rubber wrist bands&#8211;Like the Lance Armstrong &#8220;Live Strong&#8221; ones of a few years ago. This one is purple and has a whole different purpose! The idea is to use it as a queuing device to quit complaining, sniveling, and whining about life&#8211;Every [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My father in law just gave my wife and I one of those rubber wrist bands&#8211;Like the Lance Armstrong &#8220;Live Strong&#8221; ones of a few years ago.</p>
<p>This one is purple and has a whole different purpose!</p>
<p>The idea is to use it as a queuing device to quit complaining, sniveling, and whining about life&#8211;Every time you complain, you must snap or change the band to the other arm.</p>
<p>My wristband is already stretched out and worn&#8230;.Boo Hoo/Waa Waa!</p>
<p>The website for instructions and ordering is:  <a href="http://acomplaintfreeworld.org" target="_self">www.aComplaintFreeWorld.org</a></p>
<p>The results are AWESOME&#8230;.and we are having a ball &#8220;catching&#8221; both ourselves and each other complaining.</p>
<p>I see this working on the same Toastmaster Principle of beginning to catch your own and others non-fluencies such as &#8220;um&#8221;s, &#8220;and&#8217;s&#8221;,  &#8221;uh&#8217;s&#8221;, and &#8220;ya knows&#8221;.</p>
<p>Funny how something this simple can break a poisonous habit of gossip, negativity, and permeating pessimism.</p>
<p>Go for it&#8230;.this a brilliant and easy way to make a fundamental life change for the New Year!</p>
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		<title>Vision, Mission and You</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Nov 2009 16:21:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Scott Hammond</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Vision and Mission Start with the big picture—put first things first. Experts in the fields of psychology and personal effectiveness now recognize it if you feel upset or an uneasy about your lack of personal time, it’s not because you have too much to do.  It’s because you not satisfied with most of what you [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Vision and Mission</strong></p>
<p>Start with the big picture—put first things first.</p>
<p>Experts in the fields of psychology and personal effectiveness now recognize it if you feel upset or an uneasy about your lack of personal time, it’s not because you have too much to do.  It’s because you not satisfied with most of what you do.  Determine what’s most important in your life.</p>
<ol>
<li>Ask such questions as what’s most important?</li>
<li>What gives your life meaning?</li>
<li>What do you want to be and to do with your life?</li>
</ol>
<p>Clarity on these issues is critical because the answers to these questions affect everything else in your life—your goals, the decisions you make in the way you spend your time, and so much more.</p>
<p><strong>The need for a balanced life—</strong></p>
<p>If you don’t think balance in your life is vitally important to your happiness, success and health. Consider this: there is considerable evidence showing that mishandled stress at home interferes with work performance, and mishandled job pressure creates and magnifies problems at home.  Research shows that the quality of your personal relationships strongly influences job productivity, disease resistance and longevity.  Conversely, people who have value power over family and friendships appear to have a harder time fighting off disease and sickness.</p>
<p>Ask yourself these questions:</p>
<ol>
<li>Can success in one area of life compensate for failure in another?</li>
<li> Can success in your profession compensate for a broken marriage or ruined health?</li>
<li>Can success in the community justify failure as a parent?</li>
</ol>
<p>Important: success or failure in any role you have contributes to the quality of every other role, and your life as a whole.  Keep balance in your life.  Identify your various roles and keep them right in front of you so that you don’t neglect important areas such as your health, your family, your community involvement, or personal development.  Evaluating your various roles and attaching a new level of priority in each is another important step in becoming balanced and aligned and a whole person.</p>
<p><strong>Enjoy life</strong>—</p>
<p>The matter what your circumstance or how uncertain future, you can still be filled with enjoyment, humor, and a good attitude.  Don’t let fear or anxiety keep you from experiencing the happiness that life has to offer.  Go to a local park, enjoy the fresh air, and have fun.  Have friends over for dinner.  Spend time with family.  Think about what activities you enjoy and go do them!</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:28:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Time management— We all possess valuable resources, but none is trickier or more valuable than time.  Managing your time is THE key skill set in managing your life.  Show me what you do with your time and I’ll show you what your value system is all about. When leveraging time you will utilize and expand [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Time management</strong><strong>—</strong></p>
<p>We all possess valuable resources, but none is trickier or more valuable than time.  Managing your time is THE key skill set in managing your life.  Show me what you do with your time and I’ll show you what your value system is all about. When leveraging time you will utilize and expand on your core strength.  If you can manage your time well you can accomplish almost anything.  Using time incrementally, methodically, and strategically will help you stay on track and achieve your life priorities.</p>
<p>Personal productivity is only as limited as your proper use of time.  Wise use of time maximizes and leverages all resources and helps you achieve your goals, objectives, and priorities.  Good time management allows you to plan ahead and to use your purpose and passion with laser focus—nothing becomes impossible.  Your productivity, as you leverage your passion through good time management, increases exponentially resulting in compelling accomplishment.</p>
<p>“Plan your work, then work your plan” is a great axiom.  The “work your plan” part has to do with time management.  Planning is great, but is useless without execution.  Time management is all about the execution of your plans, goals, passions, and objectives.</p>
<p>The 80-20 rule is evidence of this…. The Peitro Principle states this: You accomplish about 80% of your results from 20% of your work. 20% of any group or team usually contributes to 80% of the work; this 80/20 notion is a fixed law in business, church, family or any part of life.</p>
<p>The 80/20 principle as applied to your workday is to find your personal “prime time” then leverage that time in the most productive way possible.  96 minutes is 20% of an 8 hour day. To schedule around your 20% “prime time”, where you are most productive and efficient. This is the key to leveraging time, productivity, and accomplishment. For most people their prime time is in the morning.  This is the time to get all of your core work accomplished.  This key time is to be secured and set aside as the valuable commodity it truly is. Prime work time should be scheduled on a daily basis and should have compelling content at its core. Planning, goal setting, reviewing, communicating, executing initiatives, key meetings, key document creation, and much more are all the key elements of utilizing your prime time window.</p>
<p>In our daily Prime time w<strong>e </strong>should focus on activities that—<strong> </strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Contribute to our customer,  family, stakeholders success and satisfaction</li>
<li>Booster personal productivity and performance</li>
<li>Support your family or organization’s strategic vision and goals</li>
</ol>
<p><strong>Time management tips—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Know and use your calendar or Daytimer</li>
<li>Prioritize demands on your time</li>
<li>Keep your priority list in front of you</li>
<li> Keep checking your progress with time management.</li>
<li>Stockpile work or questions, and to schedule says its time work on them.  Only work on things in your scheduled to do so.</li>
<li>Seek support when you need it— delegate</li>
<li>Develop techniques that help you when in a unique situation</li>
<li>Pick a morning or an evening to work when no one is around and get organized.  Order creates less stress and helps focus</li>
<li>Spend a few minutes at the end of the day putting everything in its home base and getting ready for the next day.  Remember… trash it, act on it, refer it, or file it away.</li>
</ol>
<p>10.  Keep yourself motivated.</p>
<p>The idea here is to have a balanced life. This begins with healthy relationships and healthy personal spirit.  Living your life in balance and alignment starts with living your priorities.  The peace and congruity that results is compelling.  A life lived well by living your priorities and being able to have fun energizes you and gives a deep sense of satisfaction.<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>You know you’re on the right track when—</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Your customers, boss, family and peers praise your accomplishments.</li>
<li>You meet your sales, personal, or family goals and have a positive performance</li>
<li>You are often considered for additional responsibility and special projects.</li>
<li> You feel good about your work and family and are energized by them.</li>
</ol>
<p>The Covey idea of sharpening your saw and resting so you can work more efficiently is the key.  A life lived in balance with family, work, community, friendships, and personal fulfillment is truly a productive life.</p>
<p>It all starts at time management, personal discipline, and self-control.  Just do it.</p>
<p><strong>Time management is&#8212;</strong></p>
<p>The definition of Time management is a set of skills, tools, and systems that work together to help you get more value out of your time and leverage it to accomplish what you want.</p>
<p>SCOTT HAMMOND .</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:40:31 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Vision and Mission</strong></p>
<p>Start with the big picture—put first things first.</p>
<p>Experts in the fields of psychology and personal effectiveness now recognize it if you feel upset or an uneasy about your lack of personal time, it’s not because you have too much to do.  It’s because you not satisfied with most of what you do.  Determine what’s most important in your life.</p>
<ol>
<li>Ask such questions as what’s most important?</li>
<li>What gives your life meaning?</li>
<li>What do you want to be and to do with your life?</li>
</ol>
<p>Clarity on these issues is critical because the answers to these questions affect everything else in your life—your goals, the decisions you make in the way you spend your time, and so much more.</p>
<p><strong>The need for a balanced life—</strong></p>
<p>If you don’t think balance in your life is vitally important to your happiness, success and health. Consider this: there is considerable evidence showing that mishandled stress at home interferes with work performance, and mishandled job pressure creates and magnifies problems at home.  Research shows that the quality of your personal relationships strongly influences job productivity, disease resistance and longevity.  Conversely, people who have value power over family and friendships appear to have a harder time fighting off disease and sickness.</p>
<p>Ask yourself these questions:</p>
<ol>
<li>Can success in one area of life compensate for failure in another?</li>
<li> Can success in your profession compensate for a broken marriage or ruined health?</li>
<li>Can success in the community justify failure as a parent?</li>
</ol>
<p>Important: success or failure in any role you have contributes to the quality of every other role, and your life as a whole.  Keep balance in your life.  Identify your various roles and keep them right in front of you so that you don’t neglect important areas such as your health, your family, your community involvement, or personal development.  Evaluating your various roles and attaching a new level of priority in each is another important step in becoming balanced and aligned and a whole person.</p>
<p><strong>You are the architect of your future—</strong></p>
<p>You are the builder, the engineer, and the architect of your future.  You have the ability to define your future if you so choose and if you’re willing to be systematic, incremental, and methodical.  You can plan your life resources and apply them conscientiously toward an imagined end.</p>
<p>This future based vision of what will be at what can be will require focus, imagination, planning, and most of all, time.  It takes time to determine who you want to be when you grow up.  It takes time and intentionality and seeking to really determine what it is you’re trying to accomplish how to go about it.</p>
<p>This future based <strong>visualization </strong>requires the ability to innovate and be imaginative.  One needs to be a lifelong learner and open to the Art of Possibility.  New ideas and new information and innovating become the currency in this new economy. The ability to synchronize and systemize new thought and ideas into old paradigms becomes a very valuable skill. Orchestration of resources, information, new thought, ideas, and new concepts into old skill sets is truly an art to be mastered.</p>
<p>It all starts with <strong>having a written plan</strong> and putting your dreams on paper.  The idea of being incremental and doing a little bit each day is key to this integration.  In some sort of a personal systematization becomes an incredibly efficient way to learn and grow.  It allows for consistency and fresh energy every day.  Calendars, schedules, and time management become key to the discipline of being systematic and methodical in achievement of our Life Plan and goals.</p>
<p><strong>Accountability</strong> becomes a great help when one has partners and coaches and friends to hold one accountable to one’s own dreams.  Having coaches and mentors really allows for extra contribution and value added content and experience to your Life Plan. Reminders, post it notes, another visual posts will serve to make your plans memorable and more top of mind. Use your reticular activator to look for and be reminded of your life’s plan and written guidelines.</p>
<p>The ability to <strong>stay flexible and dynamic</strong> and changeable is a key factor in developing a Life Plan and vision.  New information is always presenting itself.  One needs to have flexibility is a key skill set. Remaining changeable and flexible and malleable in being the architect of your future is key.</p>
<p><strong>The steps are as follows&#8212;</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Know when and how to find your dream and vision</li>
<li>Articulate it on paper and verbally</li>
<li>Bring using the resources of time, information, skill sets, and determination</li>
<li>Refine and articulate your Life Plan</li>
<li>Resource your Life Plans through time management, calendarization, resourcing, energy, and life units.</li>
<li>Just do it…</li>
<li>Evaluate on an ongoing basis and rethinking and rewriting as needed.</li>
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		<description><![CDATA[20 Steps to Compelling Goals Have SMART goals Have strategies that work&#8211; Make sure your goals are workable, realistic, and actionable. Have good implementation—follow through and be methodical, sequential and incremental.  Start small and do not despise the day of small beginnings. Accountability—be accountable to trusted advisors and mentors and those more experienced.  Coach and [...]]]></description>
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<li><strong> </strong><strong>Have SMART goals</strong></li>
<li><strong>Have strategies that work&#8211;</strong> Make sure your goals are workable, realistic, and actionable.</li>
<li><strong>Have good implementation—</strong>follow through and be methodical, sequential and incremental.  Start small and do not despise the day of small beginnings.</li>
<li><strong>Accountability</strong>—be accountable to trusted advisors and mentors and those more experienced.  Coach and mentor others as well.  Hold yourself and others accountable to your goals.</li>
<li><strong>Minimize distraction</strong>—focus on what’s important—keep the main thing the main thing</li>
<li><strong>Commit to your goals and plans</strong>—daily review your goals and adjust as needed</li>
<li><strong>Communicate your goals</strong>, with all stakeholders and family members—don’t do this in a corner.</li>
<li><strong>Post written goals publicly</strong>—be very public and very accountable and very up front with  goals</li>
<li><strong>Get family buy in and immediately</strong>—kid buying in and commitment to everyone involved.  Share what you have in mind with others who play a role in the plans success and achievement.</li>
<li><strong>10. </strong><strong>Have daily, weekly, monthly meetings to review goals and progress</strong></li>
<li><strong>Develop reasonable implementation schedule and stick to it</strong>—calendarize!</li>
<li><strong>Do your plans, see what happens, adjust as needed,</strong> and keep in touch with those who can help you stay on track.  Accountability works great!</li>
<li><strong>Evaluate</strong>—revisit current goals and paradigms and find what works and what doesn’t.  Implement change immediately.  If it works.  Do not fix it.</li>
<li><strong>Think out of the box—creatively brainstorm.</strong> Be fearless and try new things.  Get feedback from trusted advisors and mentors.</li>
<li><strong>Go away</strong>—go somewhere way from all distraction and develop a compelling parenting plan.</li>
<li><strong>Create a culture of accountability, celebration and clarity</strong>—celebrate achievement by awarding team and individual accomplishment.  Give public and private encouragement and praise. reward achievement</li>
<li><strong>Communicate expectations</strong>—have courageous conversations and be clear on expectations. Communicate, communicate, and communicate.</li>
<li><strong>Leverage your time and manager prime times of the day</strong>—the times where energy is the highest and most focused.</li>
<li><strong>Just do it—plan the work and work the plan.</strong> Commit to high performance.  Kill procrastination and perfectionism.  Keep a sense of humor.  Learn to grow and change.  It back in action and get involved.</li>
<li><strong>Dream it, write it down, and just do it&#8212;</strong> rediscover your passion, mission and purpose today.  You have a choice, time, resources, and ability.  Now it’s up to you.</li>
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