Show appropriate physical affection. Do this parent to parent and parent to child as well.
I am reminded if I refuse to hug my teen girls, there are PLENTY of young men ready to fulfill my duty…
Our kids need regular, appropriate physical touch—so does our spouse. So do I!
The kids need to see in each parent nurturing, gentle love and , when needed, the firm-yet-respectful love.
This “tough love” can manifest in a “courageous conversation” (not lecture dad!) or in simply doing and saying the right thing–always in a spirit of love.
Show your love today—Be a “hugger”—Surprise them by being that person who is warm, loving, and not afraid to show it.
BTW: say “I love you”—regularly, and mean it.
As parents, we need to support each other’s decisions as we train our kids and raise them into adulthood.
If you are not willing to support each other’s parenting decisions morally or philosophically, do not implement the parent action until you can.
This will likely require meetings between mom and dad to make proposals, listen, adjust, refine, compromise, and convince.
Change will be the outcome—change in approach, attitude, and perhaps outcome in the way you parent.
The key here is this: Are you willing to lay aside SOME of your past parenting paradigms–you know the stuff your parents did.
be committed to arriving at a place you both can accept and support as a team. otherwise , you’ll be divide and such division will be sensed by the kids.
It is in their and your interest to reach agreement and become unified as you parent together for a lifetime those you love and are in a parenting role with.
Hot Tip: Hold hands next time you have a “courageous conversation” with your child. First off–it will blow their mind.
Then, they will see you are in unity and may even listen attentively as you both speak from the strength of your new found unity.
Parenting Tip number one.
Show and speak united as parents –Be United and mutual in your communication to your children.
As often as possible, address your child together, preferably holding hands as you do.
When addressing your children as an individual parent, always represent the “parent team ” and speak accordingly.
Speak and act as one unit—be in common on how you handle issues, communication, and problems with your challenging child.
We tried this with our son Micah—We held hands and spoke our truth for that moment.
It really blew his mind! He couldn’t believe it—he sat there quiet and watching and listening!
Try it today—Make it real and “legit”… Can’t fake unity.
You’ll be surprised
at your results and response!!